The Importance of Connecting

What if I told you there’s an easy way to set yourself up for success every day? It’s called connecting. Let’s take a look at what connecting is, and why it’s important to incorporate it into your daily life.

Self-empowerment is the keystone of success. In construction, the keystone is the most important block in the foundation, the one that secures the structure and makes it possible to expand. The keystone is made up of a number of ingredients, all adhering together in a strong yet flexible supportive mass.

Similarly, the success keystone has interconnected prongs, allowing you to implement and optimize a customized foundation for quickly and easily achieving your goals and objectives that flexes and grows with you as your life progresses. One of the prongs, or ingredients, of the success keystone, is connecting.

When I speak about and define success, I mean experiencing a favorable or desired outcome.

What Does Self-Empowerment Mean?

What I mean by self-empowerment is recognizing that you are made in the likeness of our Creator who is unconditional love, the purest of positive energy, and the source of all that is good.

You are a free, independent, exceptional being, with your own talents, strengths, and preferences. You have the capacity, flowing from your God-given rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness, for wellbeing and prosperity. This is your true nature. You have the right to define and refine who you are and what you want, and to express yourself freely throughout your life. You have the right to experience favorable and desired outcomes, and to celebrate your success. In fact, this is your purpose.

When you are self-empowered, you succeed.

And if by chance you encounter an obstacle along the way, you can easily pivot to a better position by refocusing on your true nature and your blessings, talents, strengths, rights, and preferences.

Self-empowerment begins with recognition or awareness, but it is so much more. When you take self-empowerment beyond mere awareness, to genuinely and authentically trust in, own, and embrace your true nature and purpose, that’s when you experience connecting.

How to Connect with Positive Energy Every Morning

Connecting is about nurturing and nourishing yourself in body, mind, and spirit by connecting with your Creator and positive energy, and with your true nature and purpose.

The best strategy for connecting is to implement a disciplined, daily practice.

Start by making enough time in your morning for me-time. It’s time to care for/nourish/tend to your true and spiritual self.

Get out of bed. Don’t stay in your pajamas. Get dressed. This signals to your body you are beginning anew in this new day full of infinite promise of good-feeling things for you to experience.

Don’t look at your phone or turn on the television or your computer right away. The outside world can (and should) wait.

The Power of Affirmations

As you go about your morning physical practicalities of nourishing and nurturing your body (for example, brushing your teeth, taking a shower, getting dressed, making coffee), nourish and nurture your mind and spirit by telling yourself that you have been blessed with a new day and are starting fresh in it with a positive focus and that you expect to have a successful day. Say it in affirmations or prayers. Say it in your head or out loud. Do what works for you.

I find that getting up early before anyone else in my family is awake and repeating affirmations in my head or very softly out loud as I brush my teeth, open the blinds to let the sun in, and make coffee is the best way to start my day focused on success.

You can make up your own affirmations, or use those you’ve learned from others. You can say the same affirmation or prayer every day, or mix it up.

One of my favorite affirmations to start the day with is: “Today I feel good. This is a good day. All is well and all is well and all is ever well.”

Showing Appreciation and Setting Intentions

Then, sit down in a place that’s comfortable and take some focused time to write down and read over:

1) things you appreciate

2) your intentions and expectations for the day

I do this in a special notebook just for the purpose of this appreciation and intention/expectation exercise. I’ve found that the mechanical act of putting pen to paper and writing has power. It makes my positive focus tangible and real.

Of course, each of us is different and you may prefer keeping your daily notebook digitally. You can do the appreciation and intention/expectation exercise on your phone, or on your laptop or desktop computer. You might find that using a tablet with a smart pen works for you, and is almost like writing on paper. Whatever method you choose, make sure you have a special digital space to store your daily writings, and remember not to read emails or check the news or let the outside world in before you complete your morning connection exercise.

I use a small (3.5” x 5.5”) hardcover lined notebook with a beautiful outside leather cover for this purpose. Each morning, I sit in our cozy living room and open the book to two facing pages. On the left side I’ve written the heading What I Appreciate and on the right side I’ve written the heading My Intentions and Expectations. This is an example of one day’s entries:

What I Appreciate

• Focusing on the positive

• Beginning again

• Pivoting to a better position

• Unconditional love

• Joy

• Freedom

• Breathing easily

• Prosperity

• Beauty within and all around me

• Having fun

My Intentions and Expectations Today, I expect all my conversations, experiences, and interactions to feel good. Today, I begin again in this glorious new day filled with infinite promise of good-feeling things for me to experience. Today, I release anything that does not serve me and allow all my heart’s desires to flow easily to me. Today, I focus and refocus on the positive and projecting positivity. It’s a really good day.

After you write down what you appreciate and your intentions and expectations for today, turn the page and write the headings What I Appreciate and My Intentions and Expectations on the next two facing pages, so the notebook will be ready for you tomorrow.

You’ve now calibrated yourself to have a successful day and can let the outside world in by looking at your phone or turning on your computer or the television if you want to at this point.

Reflecting on the Day

In the evening as you are nourishing your body by brushing your teeth and cleansing and moisturizing your face and getting ready for bed, mentally think about a few things that made the day good and set an intention for another positive day tomorrow. You can even review that morning’s entries in your appreciation and intention/expectation notebook. Then go to sleep.

Fifteen minutes is all it takes. By spending time connecting every day, you allow the outcomes you favor or desire - or even greater and more desirable things and experiences - to flow easily to you.

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